This weekend a friend asked a question based on a statistic that she had heard, that only 20% of the USA regularly go to church.
She wanted our take on why this was. So I’m going to write about it because some of the people truly pissed me off. And even though I will be quitting facebook here sooner here than there, it’s probably still best to not leave my reponses there.
First before I say anything else, I could only find that stat on wikipedia, there was a bit about a survey that found that 50% of the country said they had deep faith/relationship with god. So. Those values could have come out of nowhere. Or maybe they are part true. Who really knows, or cares atm. Not me anyway.
Initial question popped up: 20% of what? The population of the USA? Twenty percent of the Christians of the USA? Is that counting mosque and temple? Other gatherings that celebrate god? Get back to me on that “what” yeah?
Why I don’t go to church on a regular basis? I’m barely ever in town for it, even if I am, I’ve probably got Chris with me. There is no steady basis of accommodations for deaf and hard of hearing people in Fairbury. If we were in a bigger community, like when we finally get settled in Kansas City, we’d find all sorts of churches and other spiritual gatherings and find the one that matches us. As it is, I was raised Catholic and Chris was raised protestant. If and when we find said church, I’ll be converting because I’m not going to make Chris run the gauntlet of taking catechism. You can hate me for that later. Of the churches I tried to attend before starting to date Chris, the lutheran church in town had an awesome choir and I participated with them. Then School and no time to hit practice on wednesday night, and when I couldn’t be there practicing, it felt wrong to try to be up there and not know the music. As is with a lot of things here in Fairbury, there seems to be a disconnect from myself and the women my age. I get along quite well with the little old ladies, but I always felt I didn’t belong with others. Not that they aren’t nice or anything, just unwelcome. Happened with Art Guild too. Not that other members of the congregation didn’t try to be welcoming. So yeah, that. I’m welcome to try other churches, but I don’t have the energy to try again.
One thing right now I need to say. My faith is deeply personal and I consider this being nobody’s business than my own.
So. Here it goes.
“Because we don’t drag them in kicking and screaming as kids to teach them. And it’s “cool” to be anti-religion.”
My friend noted on this one that mayhap it was because they were brought kicking and screaming as kids.
I think she’s hit it on the head. I replied that if someone is brought in kicking and screaming, who’s doing the bringing is doing it wrong. My friend is a perfect example of doing it the right way, she has noted that her oldest is perhaps a better reminder of listening at church than herself, and is an example to be set.
My reaaaal problem here is that “It’s “cool” to be anti-religion.”
What do you mean by it being “cool”? I have never once thought it was cool to be anti-religion, and I don’t think I know anyone really is in a way that it is cool. I may be anti-organized religion given the state of the catholic church and really all people in prestigious and trusted positions in the world really. Just in the media you see examples of it. How many times has this sort of thing been on Law and Order SVU? Multiply that to a hellalot of other shows and it probably doesn’t begin to become ok. Look at that in our entertainment, if it happens there, the sky’s the limit on how often it actually happens.
We seem to be just fine with religion being an excuse to kill, but…seriously? We’ve got this great big problem in the middle east with three major religions that share the same holy places. The difference is that they worship differently than each other. Also that whole thing in christians damning each other for the same thing?
I have an example here. I know a woman that’s husband was put in the home because she could no longer help care for himself and his flavor of dementia. She cheated on him. She is one of those people who has “holier-than-thou” down to a tee.
So maybe it is cool to be “anti-religion” when you talk about things that can be justified by religion.
“Sad, isn’t it. They could care less..” “Sports take over our Sundays, so parents are okay with that. It really is sad. I’m not saying that sitting in church every Sunday makes you a better person, but you certainly learn a lot.”
Uh. Who could care less? The 80 percent of the population of the United States that doesn’t go to church regularly? (if that’s the real statistic). That’s a dangerous accusation. Maybe they care and can’t. Maybe they get chased out or felt alienated. Maybe it’s just not right for them. Maybe they have to work on Saturdays or Sundays, how many times have YOU gone out for a meal on the weekend after your church service?. And with the sports on Sundays, who made that call?The reason sports happen on the weekends is we made it that way. The whole country. You can’t say that a big percentage of the population doesn’t care, and since you think this, maybe that’s why they couldn’t care less, because we allowed it to be that way.
This one makes me the most angry of all of them:
“Their excuse is they are too busy or have a lot of stuff to do! If they put God first there are no excuses!”
Lady. Who the hell are you to say who is and isn’t putting god first? And you say that they say they are busy and what not. What makes them busy? That’s not a reason for you to think people don’t go to church for. It’s an excuse, not the real why. There are so many other responses a person could give for not going to church. Some of them are pretty bold faced in previous parts in this line of the discussion on Facebook. It comes back to feeling being judged, and major sins in the realms of accessibility. None of this is any business of yours, it is God’s. Sit down and shut up.
And if you didn’t read all of this..
Tl;dr: People are afraid of being judged by other people who do go regularly, and some really are being judged. Nothing scares off a person to a thing like telling them they are going to hell for not going to it.